Be grateful for whatever comes...

THE GUEST HOUSE

This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.

meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

-- Jelaluddin Rumi

It's not easy to be as optimistic as the 13th-century mystic poet Rumi, but reading his work can at least plant the seed. Being human is full of ups and downs.  The downs can be be pretty rough, but if we can think about the downs as preparation for the good that is right around the corner, it might help us sleep better at night.

The bad moments can also be important messengers to direct our attention towards the things that are going well.   As Robin Williams says in Good Will Hunting, "You'll have bad times, but it'll always wake you up to the good stuff you weren't paying attention to.

Just like a devastating fire that clears a forest to make way for new growth, every experience, good or bad, has a purpose, which will someday become clear.  Our challenge is to remain positive and patient until it does that purpose is revealed.  

Be grateful for whatever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.

The Art of Letting Go...

A senior monk and a junior monk were traveling together. At one point, they came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross the river, they saw a very young and beautiful woman also attempting to cross. The young woman asked if they could help her.

The senior monk carried this woman on his shoulder, forded the river and let her down on the other bank. The junior monk was very upset, but said nothing.

They both were walking and senior monk noticed that his junior was suddenly silent and enquired “Is something the matter, you seem very upset?”

The junior monk replied, “As monks, we are not permitted a woman, how could you then carry that woman on your shoulders?”

The senior monk replied, “I left the woman a long time ago at the bank, however, you seem to be carrying her still.”

Japanese Garden, Portland, OR

We all have things in life that get under our skin.  Aggressive drivers that won't let us in, nagging co-workers, rude customer service people are just a few of the many offenders that we come into contact with every day.

After these interactions, it's only human to stew for a while, just like the junior monk.  The feelings we experience can be frustrating and very upsetting.  But, what good does it do to replay the scene and relive the frustration again and again? It certainly won't change what happened or, even, "pay back" the offender.  It will just ruin your day.

What the senior monk has learned, and what he was trying to impart to his junior counterpart, is the concept of letting go.

What do we gain from holding onto the negativity that we meet in life?

More negativity.

What do we gain from letting the negativity go?

Peace.

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This week, if you have the misfortune to run into such a situation, first, take a deep breath and let it out.

Then, think of the whole situation and all the negativity surrounding it like a big balloon.  Once's you've collected everything associated with the event, let go of the balloon and let it float away it disappears.

Next, think of 3 interactions that filled your life with positivity.  Let them replace the hole that the negative event left in your life.

Finally, smile.  :)